When a gentleman should wear

his hat and when to take it off.


If she should thank a gentleman

for paying for her on an excursion.


If she could with propriety

buy the tickets and take a young gentleman.


If she should take a gentleman’s hat

and coat when he calls.


If she should introduce

a gentleman who calls to her mother.


How to allow a gentleman a proper

degree of intimacy without allowing him


to think himself too much a favorite.

In our new country, the relations

of men and women are necessarily simple.



(I especially like the “gentleman who calls to her mother”)

~found in Manners and Social Usages,  by Mrs. John Sherwood (author of “A Transplanted Rose”)

1884, revised in 1897

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